When you were younger, did you picture your life to be as it is now? If not, what changed and why?


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Yin And Yang Profile
Yin And Yang answered

Short answer..... No, but it is even better then I thought it would be.

My long answer is this which I wrote a few months ago:

“But things did not go the way I had planned”

Thirty years ago, I was gonna be married to Elvis Presley. I
was gonna live in a house with my best friend at the time and be Mrs. Elvis Presley. And that was all that I had planned.

Twenty five years ago I was gonna be a doctor, rich with a
big mansion and a blue corvette. Bitter from my parents’ divorce I decided I no longer wanted a husband and I wanted to have a hundred cats. I no longer liked Elvis. Things did not go the way I had planned.

Twenty years ago I found myself pregnant and dying to get
married. I was now going to be a great scientist so I could find the cure for cancer because my Grandma died of cancer. I no longer liked cats. Things did not go the way I had planned.

Fifteen years ago, I was finally getting married to the man I
loved, my daughter was in kindergarten and I was going to go to work so I could do it all, be it all and live the American dream. I no longer had time or money to be a scientist. Things did not go the way I had planned.

Ten years ago my marriage was struggling. I now had two
children, a part time job, and a sister who I was certain was gonna walk out of the hospital miraculously cured of leukemia. But things did not go the way I had planned. She got out of the hospital via Heaven’s gate and I spiraled out of control.

Five years ago I found myself trapped under the ruins of the
life I had created. We were evicted. My husband was in prison. I was stuck in the deceptive web of a love triangle; strung out on drugs,   alcohol and partying. I now had three precious daughters looking up to me to be a role model. I was lost, angry and struggling to figure out where to go to get out of this mess of a life I thought I wanted by the deception and desire, the lies of the sinful nature I twisted around myself. But things did not go the way I had planned.

It has been over four years since I found my Church. It has
been over four years that I began a relationship with Jesus Christ. It has been four years that I have been clean and sober. It has been four years that my husband has been out of prison. We have come a long way, going back to college and getting a degree, holding down a career, getting off of government assistance, building a credit and bank account which was once destroyed, saving money to buy a house because we now have four precious children. And we are
thriving in our Church. But things did not go the way I had planned.

Three months ago my husband was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and as it stands today I have no clue what to plan. I am scared but I am
walking by faith that it is no longer after 37 years MY plan but it is now HIS plan. Lord I give my life over to You. Mold me, shape me, like a lump of clay in a Potters hand so I can be conformed to YOUR plan. I don’t ever want to have to say “but things did not go the way I had planned.” I now only want to say “Thank You Jesus cuz this is part of Your plan and we are safely in Your hands!” Amen!

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Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
Yin this is SO beautiful...and Dozy, Yin's imagery of the potter and the clay? I STILL do not have my new copy of Omar, but you I am sure will remember those verses...
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
For I remember stopping by the way
To watch a Potter thumping his wet Clay:
And with its all-obliterated Tongue
It murmur'd, "Gently, Brother, gently, pray!"

And has not such a Story from of Old
Down Man's successive generations roll'd
Of such a clod of saturated Earth
Cast by the Maker into Human mould?
Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
Yes...it's even better than I recall...
Woof Woofy Profile
Woof Woofy answered

the fact that i can't ever work a full time job and have to stay on disability.. stupid autoimmune issues caused severe arthritis and joint fusion in my spine, buttlock, and hip regions. Spent 10 months in a stupid wheelchair (starting 1 month before my 24th birthday, my 26th b-day just passed).. And than several months getting myself up and walking again... But overall... I am thankful that i can walk again and i am able to work a few hours a day (when im out there, waving my sign around for Little Caesars pizza. I've had people yell out their car windows "get a real job you homo"etc..) its already painful enough for me to stand out there 3 hours every night. (there are times where my joints get so bad that i just feel like walking off).. Last Wednesday i was in agony halfway thru my 3 hour shift but today was a good day..

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Otis Campbell
Otis Campbell commented
I know that arthritis pain skunky i have it sux keep looking forward
Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
One hella fine and beautiful skunk, I do say...
AnnNettie Paradise
I understand your. I too suffers with the same type of pain. Keep smiling, and don't let anyone or anything take away your joy! (P.S. Little Caesars Pizza are delicious) :))
Otis Campbell Profile
Otis Campbell answered

Wow i could have been much more but i screwed up my life with alcohol and drugs. I have 17 yrs sober but its too late

Jaimie  JT Profile
Jaimie JT answered

No.... Even ten years ago  I couldn't have  anticipated or pictured my life turning out the way it is now :) I have a good life and I'm  greatful for all I have:) and I still have a lot of life  to live  .... But I was on another path and it took a twist I didn't or couldn't have anticipated. But still ... I wouldn't change a thing :)

Didge Doo Profile
Didge Doo answered

More or less. I came from nowhere, set little direction, and arrived nowhere. I guess I achieved my dream.

But as dull as that sounds it has been anything but dull. It's surprising how many watersheds, most of them tiny, have shifted me into different directions and created unexpected pockets of enjoyment.

It's been a happy life.

Love that profile pic, Nicole. :)

Darik Majoren Profile
Darik Majoren answered

Um, according to my childhood dreams, I should be either doing a hood slide across a fine looking red/white car to catch a criminal:

OR . . Be horribly maimed (but with no pain) only to be reconstructed by the government to work for a super secret intelligence organization:

At least these were the plans that I made with my friends Huggy Bear and Oscar Goldman growing up . . . I wonder whatever happened to those two . . .

Personal Computers and Digital imagining wasn't around when I was 8.

Tom  Jackson Profile
Tom Jackson answered

Everything that I had feared might happen in my life...has happened.

Surprisingly(?) I survived just fine.

If I could have anticipated my current retrospective vision, I would never have feared anything.

Pepper pot Profile
Pepper pot answered

No I didn't picture it to be as it is now. I thought I'd be married with children, and I'd have my own business. I suffered pain from scoliosis when growing up, and I had a car accident at age thirty and now suffer chronic pain, and arthritis this changed my plans to have my own business, and although I am in a relationship I've never had children because of my health. So you just never know what life is going to throw at you, and you are probably better off not knowing. No matter what happens, the person inside develops fantastic skills of adaption, and never really ages. Outside you look fine, inside you are doing acrobats :) You have to be flexible inside.

Nealious James Profile
Nealious James answered

Nicole! Not at all. As a kid, we all picture ourselves as princes and kings or
simply very wealthy and successful. However, this is not always possible in
real life! The system we live in has everything to restrict our moves and in
most cases this holds us back!

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